Over the weekend, I attended the screening of a documentary about a seriously amazing program called The If Project and got to listen to a Q&A panel with some of the subjects of the film and the director.
One of the women who spoke on the panel was Melissa. Melissa had been featured in the documentary while she was serving a nine-year prison sentence. She’d first been incarcerated at age 28 and arrived at the prison in the film on her thirtieth birthday. Speaking on the panel, she said during the beginning of her sentence, she just wanted to get through her 30's. Her life, she said, felt like it was on hold while she was locked up. However, through her participation in programs like the If Project, she began to realize that her life was not on hold. It was going on, whether she liked it or not.
“I may not have been in the place I wanted to be, or where I imagined I’d be,” she recalled.
“But I realized this was my life and I needed to make the most of it.”
Those words resonated with me.
. . .
How many of us, like Melissa, feel like we aren’t where we want to be? I know I feel this way often. My life is definitely not where I thought it would be—as a child, a teen or hell, even a few years ago. Some days my life feels very far from where I want it to be.
I talk about this disconnect often when I describe my work:
“Coaching is a tool that can help us bridge the gap between where we are and where we want to be.” This is absolutely true. We can bridge the gap, and coaching can get us there.
But what do we do in the meantime? When we’re still in the place we don’t really want to be? When we’re confined to a place we don’t want to be, but for whatever the reason, we can’t leave? Or feel we can't? We can’t sit out our life for a week, a month, a decade. We can’t wait until we’re where we want to be. So, what do we do in the meantime?
We do what Melissa did.
We find ways to live our lives the fullest—regardless of where we are. We find ways to be happy with what we have now, even if we want more. We enjoy where we are while we make plans to get somewhere else.
And coaching can help with that too. Coaching can be a tool to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be, but it’s also a pretty good tool to help you enjoy the NOW, wherever you are. Coaching can help bridge gaps but it can also connect dots, set up stepping stones and lay plans to get to you to the bridge. To learn more, contact me or a book a sample session.
p.s. I’m sure you’re dying to know more about The If Project! Here’s more info on the program, and here’s info on the film—coming soon to iTunes!